Traumas Are Portals To Awakening – Written by Danielle

A year and a half ago I went through a breakdown, which turned into an incredible breakthrough and the beginning of the Positive People Army.  It’s actually amazing how a difficult period can lead to a beautiful awakening.

For Danielle, her heartache came with the loss of her husband. However opening up her heart again and meeting her new love Bill opened her eyes to a brand new life and a healing experience.

Please enjoy Danielle’s incredible journey!

Heidi Allen – Positive People Army Founder 


Like many people in the early 70’s, trauma forced me into questioning what life meant.  My particular trauma at age 27 was being left with two small children after the death of my first husband. This was during a consciousness rising time when events such as the Viet Nam War, the Kent State shooting of students rebelling against it, birth control and the sexual revolution leading to flower children and love-ins, kicked us into gear. Many people began testing the waters of what we could experience – drugs, sex and rock n’ roll.

After my husband’s death, I broke out of my protective shell and went looking for my own answers because what I knew no longer made sense; I became a seeker.  I knew I would remarry and I wanted to marry an educated man, someone who liked to travel, was domestic, and although I didn’t put it down as a requirement at the time, had a spiritual bent.

I met Bill.  He was a mediator, also widowed, had a young child close to my two children’s age and, due to his trauma after the death of his first wife, he opened up to alternative approaches for dealing with stress.  He had taken up meditation and introduced it to me.  I was enthralled by meditation once I learned it and wanted to learn more so I signed up for a Yoga Teachers’ Training course at the Yoga Centre Toronto and back in those days, there was no Hot Yoga or Power Yoga; it was Hatha Yoga, Pranayamas, Meditation and Yoga philosophy.


One of my teachers, Jay Bixby was his name, came up to me after his class and said, “Stay around after class, Danielle; I want to show you some healing techniques.”  I was lucky enough at that time to have menstrual cramps and Jay proceeded to do some pressure point work on me.  He pressed along my collar bone area, thumb walked down either side of my spine, hit points on my hip area, did spinal pressure point work on my thumbs and feet and to my amazement my cramping disappeared. I could feel this current of energy go into my abdominal area and dissipate the cramping. I thought, “Wow, this is better than taking a Midol pill.” 

I took my first pressure point course called Vita Flex. It was 1977 and about that time our son had been diagnosed with a curvature in his spine.  We took him get x-rays where it showed that his thigh bone fit into his hip socket incorrectly creating a curved spine and one leg 1.5 cm shorter than the other.  We were asked to come back in three months to see how he was doing.

We also took our son to the Vita Flex teacher and asked him if he could lengthen legs. He said, “Yes, in fact, there is a leg-lengthening point in the collar bone area.”  The teacher taught me what to do and I performed a short ritual every morning before the kids went to school.

We took him back for more x-rays which to our amazement showed that he was completely normalized!  We were totally delighted for our son as he was only ten years old and now could continue life with a better skeletal system.


Being hooked on the healing arts I took every course that came to town. At that time, doing alternative stuff was nowhere close to main stream as it is today — reflexology, yoga, and vegetarianism were still hokey pokey and we were considered a bit weird. Our kids would come home from school and I’d be standing on my head, or be in the corpse pose, or twisted like a pretzel.  The visiting kids used to say there was never anything normal to eat in this house. We were post-latent hippies raising new age children in a very confusing era. We didn’t have any road maps and were making it up as we went along.  We would have visiting yogis, psychic healers, people from other planets, tarot card readers and lots of wonderful experiences in whole person’s workshops and alternative living ideas.

Because our children were exposed to reflexology at a very young age, they were used to thinking of the body mapped out on the feet.  Once, at a doctor’s appointment, the doctor said, “Let me take a look at your stomach” and my one daughter started taking off her shoes.  I had to hold back some smiles.

We learned more yoga teachings from our yoga spiritual teacher, Dr. Ramamurti Mishra who exposed us to the philosophy of Ayurveda and the personal doshas (tendencies), yoga chakra healing and various practices for cleansing.

I eventually graduated with a degree in psychology and a Post-Graduate Diploma in Human Resources Management.  I found that I had a keen interest in personality theory and worked for companies teaching workshops using a behavioural model while getting further trained in temperament theory.


All of these learning experiences led me to put together how to think of reflexology of the ears, hands, and feet.  I realized that with the personality temperament theory (similar to Ayurveda mind-body system), we can think of the human instrument as a wholistic system consisting of a Mental Side which acts as the Dreamer in us and produces our Ideas; a Social Side which acts as a Catalyst in us and generates our Connections; and a Physical Side which acts as the Builder in us providing feedback that helps manifest and consolidate our ideas and connections into something concrete and tangible.

I taught all three reflexology courses to students — Feet, Hands, and Ear Reflexology – and I asked them how they felt the three modalities differed.   The benefits students expressed fit nicely into the principles of Ayurveda and we determined:

  • If the Mental principle is imbalanced, do Ear Reflexology to calm the mind.
  • If someone is frustrated, upset or angry, do Hand Reflexology to cool the emotions of the Social principle.
  • And if someone is tired, lethargic and dull due to too many time constraints and no time for rest and repair, do Foot Reflexology to stimulate the Physical principle.


I tell my students, “You are not the healer; your job is pressing buttons.  Mother Nature is the healer and each person’s body has its own intelligence.  It will take what it needs from your pressure point work and use it the way it sees fit.  Your job is to just press the buttons.” 

It is best to see any condition as an imbalance of energy and whether it is in the mental aspect with worry or anxiety; the social aspect with frustration or anger; or the physical aspect of fatigue and toxins, we strive to regain balance.  Increased self awareness and modalities such as Reflexology can help.

I’m grateful to Jay Bixby for my first healing experience. It shaped my life and as often is the case my trauma was a portal to awakening and to exploring new ideas.


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