Are you happy?

Today’s post comes from Positive People Army member Mary B. Her story is insightful and inspiring!



“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”

Doesn’t it seem strange to anyone else that we live in one of the most advanced nations on the globe and yet, somehow, “Positivity” needs to be a “movement” rather than just the default?

Where did we, as a world, go so sideways that stress, pain, insecurity and fear are the norm above gratitude, positivity, confidence and happiness?

Oh, right… because we live in a world that cashes in on unhappy people.

“Buy this new car- then you’ll forget about your bald spot.”
“Take this luxurious trip – it’ll definitely save your broken marriage.”
“You should totally inject this medically-debatable substance in your upper lip…. you’ll get way more right-swipes on Tinder.”

No wonder we’re unhappy.

I mean, what profit could be made from a confident, secure, minimalistic population?

I’ve spent the past three years getting to know who I am. One day I just decided I didn’t like the materialistic, superficial, viciously insecure, emotionally volatile and painfully codependent 20-something that I’d become. So, I decided to change her; just like that.

Today, when I meet you, I want to know three things about who you are:

1. What makes you happiest in life?
2. If money was no object, how would you spend your days?
3. If you woke up tomorrow and you were the last person on earth, what would you continue doing?

I don’t care what you do for a living.
It makes no difference to me where you went to school or what concert you last saw.
I care most about the ‘You’ that exists beneath the ‘You’ that everyone else takes for granted… because, ultimately, that’s the only ‘you’ that matters.

The truth is, our society has completely failed us in breeding positivity… that’s why we need to start movements.

How is it that we have all our basic human needs met: Michelin star dinners and 1500-threadcount Egyptian cotton duvets – yet we’re entirely unsatisfied with our lives?

What does it even mean to be ‘happy’ these days? Is it granite counter-tops and heated Italian marble bathroom floors? Prestigious degrees on the wall or zeroes in a bank account?

I don’t care to know what you have.
I care about who you are.
And everything to me, about you, begins the moment I get to know what sets your soul on fire.


Our happiness in life comes from what we’re passionate about.

So, what’s yours?

Happiness is finding what it is you love to do – the thing you’d do even if nobody else was there to see it – and then using that thing to make a living. Sounds like a pipe dream, huh? Not at all. There are so many ways to earn a living doing what you love, yet so many of us spend our days doing things we ‘marginally don’t hate’ that we’re too busy to figure out who we are underneath it all.

Ask yourself the three questions that I ask people I meet.

Do you know the answers?

Do you dare to find out?


Join the conversation and leave a comment below if you feel you are happy and can you answer the three questions.

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