Recently my son shared with me a very self-aware moment he had, had. He describe his life as a passenger in the backseat of a car.  He felt like he was only observing and attending, but not participating.

I told him, you don’t need a license to drive your life…just a choice. And with that he decided to become the driver and he is thoroughly enjoying his road trip of life!

As a psychotherapist, Lisa understands the choices we need to make to live a happy life.  Especially a positive life.

I’m pleased to share Lisa’s inspiring post on how can we establish a more positive, balanced and fulfilling outlook on life.


Heidi Allen – Positive People Army Founder 


Everybody wants to be happy; to have a life filled with love, health and good fortune.

We all know that having a positive attitude feels better than a negative one. We know that positivity fuels success and makes life brighter.

Being positive is an art.

Unfortunately, some of us are often attracted to a negative outlook on things. But negativity brings us down and burdens us with sadness, anger and frustration. It’s overwhelming and can truly take a toll on us – emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Negativity is heavy and paralyzing. Negativity sucks!

So how can we establish a more positive, balanced and fulfilling outlook on life?

You can start with taking care of yourself. Some of us are natural pleasers, often forgetting to give ourselves a piece of the pie of life. Make yourself a priority. Honour your personal wishes, thoughts and decisions, it promotes happiness and fulfillment.

Be heard and understood!

Practice self-love.

Support others, give compliments.

Embrace your failures, learn from your hardships and evolve through your challenges.

Don’t gossip. Don’t even listen to gossip.  It’s toxic!

Be forgiving of yourself when you do screw up- you’re human, and mistakes are healthy and unavoidable.

See the beauty in yourself and others.

Slow down, take a deep breath.

Don’t strive for perfection; strive for happiness, balance and peace.

Say daily affirmations. Repeat them often with conviction until you believe them. Keep repeating  them again and again until they become part of who you are!

Avoid negative people- they will take you down.

Remember, positivity is contagious so surround yourself with optimistic, realistic and loving people.

Take a stance for what you believe in. Don’t be a bystander. Make a difference.

Go to yoga. It nourishes your mind and your soul.  If not yoga- find another hobby.

Love others and yourself generously.

Be authentic.

No more negative self-talk.  Recognize your attributes, skills and wisdom.

And finally, being positive is about finding balance. It’s about allowing yourself to fail, to be down or overwhelmed but then finding the strength and motivation to pick yourself back up.

It’s realizing that difficult life experiences help us to learn and grow.

So my advice is, when life is filled with unexpected stresses and hardships, embrace them, learn from them and then move on!

It’s what we do with these experiences that count and in turn make our life outcomes more positive, fulfilling and happy.


Lisa Brookman, MSW, PSW
Co-Director and Psychotherapist at West Island Therapy Centre | CJAD 800 Talk Radio Host | Mental Health Columnist at Best Health Magazine | Founder of Wise Women Canada
To learn and red more from Lisa please check out Wise Women Canada 


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